🗣 “You encourage us to marry and speak of its virtues and sweet fruits, yet after marriage we encountered hardships, rights, duties, and responsibilities that seem to overshadow all those pleasures!”
✅ A Valid Question!
💡 The Answer lies in the difference in aspirations and determination (همم) among people—both men and women. Just as people differ in strength and ambition, they differ in how they approach life's responsibilities.
🌟 Some pursue ease and comfort, avoiding burdens and duties…
📜 As the poet said:
“Leave noble ambitions, don’t travel for them… just sit, eat and dress well!”
(دع المكارم لا ترحل لبغيتها... واقعد فإنك أنت الطاعم الكاسي)
💪 Others find true joy in fulfilling rights, bearing responsibilities, and carrying noble burdens…
📜 Another poet says:
“Were it not for hardship, all would have risen high. Generosity brings poverty, and bravery leads to death!”
(لولا المشقة ساد الناس كلهم... الجود يفقر والإقدام قتال)
| 🏷 Objective | 📚 Description | 💡 Deeper Wisdom |
|---|---|---|
| 👶 Procreation (الذرية) | To raise a righteous generation that worships Allah and builds the Ummah. | A form of ongoing charity (صدقة جارية) after death. |
| 🤝 Support & Service (الخدمة) | Mutual assistance in worldly life — emotional, physical, and spiritual. | Cooperation in deen and dunya strengthens the bond. |
| 💞 Emotional & Physical Fulfillment (المتعة) | Enjoying lawful intimacy and companionship. | Helps protect from fitnah and builds love & mercy. |
🌟 True success in marriage is not in the absence of responsibilities, but in finding joy in fulfilling them.
🎯 High-minded individuals see duties not as burdens, but as pathways to nobility, reward, and closeness to Allah.
🕊 Marriage was never meant to be just a source of comfort… It is a field of sacrifice, love, duty, and reward.
May Allah guide us to understand the true goals of marriage, and may He grant us the strength to live by them.
Ameen 🤲